For most of my life, I prided myself on being fiercely independent. I carried the weight of everything on my own shoulders, convinced that asking for help was a sign of weakness.

But now? Now, I feel like I’m drowning.

This pregnancy has stripped me of the identity I spent over a decade building. It’s forcing me to let go of control in ways I never expected. And the only way I’m staying afloat? Asking for help.

And let me tell you—it’s uncomfortable. It’s humbling. It’s a skill I’m still learning.

But it’s also the exact thing that keeps me going.

The Strength in Community

Last month, one of my 1:1 clients told me something that stopped me in my tracks. She said:

"If it weren’t for the community I found in YTT, I would feel completely alone. It was my lifeline. The support, the sisterhood—that’s what got me through."

It was a huge reminder that we aren’t meant to do this alone. We’re not supposed to figure out life’s biggest transitions—whether that’s pregnancy, healing, career changes, or deep inner work—without support.

I won’t lie. Sometimes, I wonder if I’m just talking into the void. Is this work even making a difference? Is anyone even listening?

But then I hear something like that, and I’m reminded—YES. This work matters. This community matters.

Why Asking for Help Is Hard (and How to Overcome It)

If you’ve ever struggled to ask for help, trust me—you’re not alone. Here are some common blocks (and how to shift them):

1. Fear of Being a Burden

“Everyone else has their own problems—I don’t want to add to their load.”

Shift It: Remind yourself that true relationships thrive on reciprocity. People want to help you, just like you’d want to help them.

▶️ Journal Prompt: What’s one time someone helped me and it deepened our connection?

2. Thinking You Should Have It All Figured Out

“I should be able to handle this on my own.”

Shift It: No one is meant to navigate life alone. We’re wired for connection. Growth happens when we allow ourselves to be supported.

▶️ Journal Prompt: Where in my life am I resisting support, and why?

3. Struggling to Receive

“I’ll just do it myself—it’s easier that way.”

Shift It: Allowing yourself to receive help is an act of self-love. It creates space for deeper transformation.

▶️ Journal Prompt: What’s one thing I can delegate or ask for support with today?

Building a Support System

If you’re in a season where you feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water, here are three actionable steps to help you lean into support:

1️⃣ Make a List of Your People – Write down the names of three people you trust who you can reach out to this week.

2️⃣ Be Specific with Your Needs – Instead of saying, “I need help,” try “Can you check in on me once a week?” or “Would you be open to talking for 10 minutes?”

3️⃣ Say YES When Support Shows Up – When someone offers to help, practice saying yes without guilt.

You Are Not Alone

The biggest lesson I’m learning right now? I don’t have to carry it all alone. And neither do you.

If you’re struggling to ask for help, start small. Lean into the people who love you. Let yourself be supported.

Because transformation is messy. Growth is hard. But the beautiful part? You don’t have to do it alone.

Join Me for Womb Circle + Sound Healing

If you’re craving deeper connection, sisterhood, and a space to put down what you’ve been carrying, I invite you to join me for Womb Circle + Sound Healing on Friday, April 11th from 5-6:30 PM at Pure Yoga in Ocean City, MD.

This is your opportunity to release, to receive, and to lean into the power of community. Through sound healing and sacred circle, you’ll be held, supported, and reminded that you are never alone in this journey.

Come as you are. Bring what’s on your heart. And allow yourself to be supported in the way you deserve.

I can’t wait to hold space for you. See you there. 💛